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It\u2019s as though this particular incision created an inguinal interruption of sorts in the caregiving choreography we\u2019ve spent more than 20 years learning together.<\/p>\n
My recovery limits me from lifting anything over 20 pounds for 42 days, which, as Jennifer has previously written about<\/a><\/strong>, forced us to rethink routines that once felt automatic. Tasks that once took seconds required planning. Our energy became something to budget carefully rather than spend freely.<\/p>\n Our rhythm didn\u2019t stop, but it changed drastically.<\/p>\n For years, Jennifer and I have described our caregiving as choreography<\/a><\/strong>. It\u2019s a daily dance we\u2019ve shaped together through timing, trust, fatigue, and adaptation.<\/p>\n Living and caregiving with Multiple Sclerosis means we\u2019ve learned those steps gradually. Sometimes it\u2019s graceful. Other times it\u2019s dangerous or all kinds of awkward. But it\u2019s always been together.<\/p>\n This season of recovery required improvisation and learning a new kind of choreography. With new caregivers standing in for me. Yes, we are so blessed and grateful that longtime caregiver Jenn has risen to the task to take on more and additional caregivers have stepped in to cover some shifts.<\/p>\n Some days, caregiving has looked different because I physically can\u2019t do what I normally would. On other days, it meant talking through tasks rather than doing them automatically. Sometimes it meant slowing down enough to recognize what truly mattered in the moment and letting the rest wait.<\/p>\n These adjustments aren\u2019t necessarily dramatic. But they are needed and are totally different from what we\u2019re used to in our caregiving relationship.<\/p>\n When I recently wrote an MS Focus Magazine<\/em> essay about finding my moments of MS genius, I shared a memory from my Cub Scouts days. You can read it here: Find your moments of MS genius<\/a><\/strong>. It was a small moment that taught me creativity often matters more than perfection. At the time, it didn\u2019t feel like a life lesson. It just felt like figuring something out.<\/p>\n Living with MS has a way of turning those small lessons into essential ones.<\/p>\n That\u2019s where the idea of MS genius comes from. It\u2019s not brilliance in the traditional sense, but the quiet problem-solving that happens when life forces you to adapt.<\/p>\nWhen the Dance Changes<\/strong><\/h3>\n
Opening the MS genius kit again<\/strong><\/h3>\n