{"id":358,"date":"2023-08-30T13:29:15","date_gmt":"2023-08-30T13:29:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wickedsister.evit.com.au\/index.php\/2023\/08\/30\/radical-self-love-sacred-not-selfish\/"},"modified":"2023-08-30T13:29:15","modified_gmt":"2023-08-30T13:29:15","slug":"radical-self-love-sacred-not-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wickedsister.evit.com.au\/index.php\/2023\/08\/30\/radical-self-love-sacred-not-selfish\/","title":{"rendered":"Radical Self-Love: Sacred, Not Selfish"},"content":{"rendered":"

Is Self-Love Selfish? Let\u2019s Chat.<\/strong><\/p>\n

I saw a post on Facebook recently that asked,
\u201cWhat\u2019s one piece of advice every child should get?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Without thinking twice, I wrote:
\u201cLove yourself unconditionally.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Later that day, I asked Jeremy what he\u2019d<\/em> say.
He goes, \u201cBe kind.\u201d<\/p>\n

Also great advice. Nailed it.<\/p>\n

But then I told him mine, and he said,
\u201cWell, that\u2019s selfish.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Uhh\u2026 what?!
That stopped me in my tracks. I\u2019ve been telling our boys since they were teeny little wild things to love themselves first and most<\/em>.
Now here\u2019s their dad calling that selfish?<\/p>\n

So I sat with it.
Let it roll around in my head and heart.
Is it selfish to love yourself unconditionally?
What even is<\/em> radical self-love?
And why the hell do so many people still look down on it?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s my take\u2014built on a whole lotta reading, deep intuition, and lived experience.<\/p>\n

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What Self-Love Is (and Isn\u2019t)<\/h3>\n

Self-love is self-acceptance<\/strong>, plain and simple.
When someone truly loves themselves\u2014radically, without conditions\u2014they don\u2019t need anyone else to pump them up or hand them permission slips to feel good.<\/p>\n

They already know their worth.
They don\u2019t chase validation. They chase what lights them up.
They treat their bodies well\u2014not out of punishment, but because they give a damn.<\/p>\n

Folks who love themselves like this tend to have wide open hearts.
They\u2019re generous with their joy.
They give freely without fear, because they know love isn\u2019t a limited resource\u2014it\u2019s infinite.
They don\u2019t need to get<\/em> something from others to be<\/em> someone.<\/p>\n

People full of self-love usually:<\/p>\n