{"id":394,"date":"2021-04-10T14:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-04-10T14:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wickedsister.evit.com.au\/index.php\/2021\/04\/10\/not-______-enough\/"},"modified":"2021-04-10T14:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-04-10T14:00:00","slug":"not-______-enough","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wickedsister.evit.com.au\/index.php\/2021\/04\/10\/not-______-enough\/","title":{"rendered":"Not ______ Enough"},"content":{"rendered":"

I will never forget the first time I felt \u201cless than.\u201d
 
I was onstage and in costume, ready to perform for the very first time at the local Greek festival. Our dance troupe director was welcoming the audience and explaining the origin of our opening number. The girl standing next to me in line started to ask the dancers in the immediate area \u201chow much Greek\u201d they were. She went down the line.
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\u201cI\u2019m 100%.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201c100!\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201c100.\u201d<\/p>\n

It was my turn. \u201cI\u2019m half Greek,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n

The \u201c100%\u201d crew proceeded to exchange high-fives and accolades with each other.<\/p>\n

I had just turned five.<\/p>\n

We see one-upmanship everywhere, but it astonishes me even more when it happens among \u201ccircles\u201d of people. We see it within various ethnic or racial groups\u2014not black enough, not Asian enough, not Italian enough. It happens within different religious groups, too, when people challenge each other\u2019s piety, and within the LGBTQ+ community, when some don\u2019t feel \u201cqueer enough.\u201d We see it when a musical artist or celebrity passes away, and \u201ctrue fans\u201d call others \u201cbandwagoners.\u201d<\/p>\n

When a person who expresses a fondness for an athletic team, comic book character, video game, or movie franchise, their dedication and aptitude is put to the test by other fans. Men aren\u2019t \u201cman enough\u201d if they show their emotions. Vegetarians and vegans judge each other\u2019s level of commitment. Body builders, feminists, artists, the list goes on.<\/p>\n

We all do this to each other to some degree. But for what?<\/p>\n

I\u2019m especially shocked and saddened to see this unfortunate phenomenon within our very own MS community.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re weak because you take medication. You\u2019re poisoning yourself. Yoga and diet is just as effective.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re too negative. You just want attention and for everyone to feel sorry for you.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019re too positive. You\u2019re blind to reality.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYour symptoms aren\u2019t that bad. You could have cancer.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cYou\u2019ve only had MS for a short time, so therefore you\u2019re na\u00efve and are behaving all wrong. You don\u2019t know what you\u2019re talking about.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cBut you don\u2019t look sick.\u201d<\/p>\n

We, as people living with MS, often hear hurtful, judgmental comments from people around us. Sometimes our doctors can be insensitive. Sometimes we get glares and accusations from people when we use our disabled parking placards. Some of us get denied social security disability insurance, even if we wake up in constant pain, unable to move or lose our eyesight.<\/p>\n

And we don\u2019t appreciate it.<\/p>\n

So if it hurts us so much, why do we, as an MS community, do these things to one another when we\u2019re all in the same boat?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Our community should be safe space to share our own experiences and learn from others, without it turning it into a competition. The ways in which our disease manifests vary from person to person, from day to day. We know this. So why can\u2019t we respect that fact and allow and encourage each other to cope in our own unique ways?<\/p>\n

For me, the most frustrating thing about MS is this:<\/p>\n

My body…\u00a0MY<\/strong>\u00a0body, is attacking itself.<\/p>\n

When we MSers turn on each other and try to make others in our community feel less than, we self-attack.<\/p>\n

Just like the disease we are all trying to fight.<\/p>\n

We become MS.<\/p>\n

This article was authored by Cat Stappas and originally published on the National Multiple Sclerosis Society’s blog, MSConnection.org, on February 20, 2018.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Source: itsonlyabruise.com<\/a><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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