There are many times when the memories from the past can blind us from where we are going in life. It is only natural for all humans to hold a grudge and not know the best way to release those emotions. Often, we let our past experiences dictate our future, and while this can sometimes result in a positive outcome, there are times when it can lead to negative consequences; both outcomes can be life-altering. Holding onto the past does not allow you to grow and enjoy the life we all deserve. Our lives may not be the dream we wanted them to be, but life does not have to be a nightmare either. The fact is, our lives are what we make them, and our choices along the way are a huge factor.
Reflecting on our lives may not be an easy task, especially when you have buried too many demons. Unfortunately, no matter how deeply the demons are, they always resurface and are mostly unpredictable. Until we face our demons, they will never stop pulling us down and drowning us in their memories. Everyone deserves a good life, so we must face our demons and defeat them once and for all. No one must remain a slave to the demons we have buried; we can face them and overcome them with strength and determination.
Our childhood years are the most impressionable years of our lives. We begin to learn who we are and build our strengths. Childhood can shape who we become as adults, and through the lessons learned, we start to understand the differences between right and wrong. The situations that occur during our younger years are issues we may carry with us, but those negative situations can create something inside us that helps us navigate through the years.
If we all take time to think about the issues from our lives that have caused pain and we carried that pain with us for years, we will start to understand the need for us to STOP and let go of the pain. When we carry hurt and disappointment with us for too many years, it does nothing to benefit our healing. The only thing we are doing by holding onto these negative emotions is damaging our hearts, souls, and optimism for the future. Sometimes it takes many tears to finally release ourselves from the past, but once we do, we may see our lives in an entirely different light, and that light will be brighter.
For instance, consider years of cruelty and disappointment, once viewing the world with a sense of fear, now standing strong from growing up too fast. Haunting betrayals tried to distract from the bigger picture of happiness, but now she stands dressed in white, embarking on a future she did not know existed, one that holds safety, security, love, kindness, hope, and freedom from violence and lies. She dreamed of this beautiful day, and in her dreams, she wanted nothing more than what all little girls wanted: her daddy walking beside her, tears in his eyes because his little girl was happy and building her life. The lack of this was the last time she would allow the dreams of a father who loved her to break her heart.
Proudly, she worked for years to let go of the pain caused and the tears she had in her eyes as she walked alone down the aisle to be married. She is sure he has regrets and, in a sense, that this day his heart broke as well. She knows that no one can turn back time and make the wrongs right, and knows holding this over him will not mend the broken hearts. Regardless of the pain caused by years of feeling unloved, she knows in her heart that her father loved her, but it was not the way she needed it. Does he know how to love her the way she desperately needed? Can she hear in his voice that he is trying to win her trust and love, but can he hear in her voice the fear of letting him back into her life and heart? Maybe.
My main reason for this long post was to help others learn when it is time to release yourselves from disappointments and hurt. Of course, when working on releasing negative emotions, it can be beneficial to talk it out with the people who caused the pain; however, if that does not work or it is too uncomfortable to deal with, journaling your emotions can help you work through the challenges you face. The most important thing to remember is to understand that YOU are NOT alone and that YOU will overcome these challenges!
Thank you for taking the time to visit my site and read this post today. I hope something I shared resonates with you and helps you to overcome the many challenges everyone faces throughout life. It is very critical to understand that you are stronger than you think, and you deserve the best life possible. As always, I look forward to reading your thoughts about what I have shared and will respond to all comments as quickly as possible. Please never forget I am always sending y’all LOTS of love
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Always, Alyssa
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